Irisdian Mayares, Reporter
Whether it be how to make them learn a lesson or how to keep them content, parents are constantly struggling with the question of how to manage their teens. Teenagers tend to be a mystery to parents and just about everyone else. How do you discipline someone that’s generally rebellious, secretive, and set out to do the exact opposite of what parents want?
Despite there not being a secure answer, most parents opt to use the phone as the ultimate form of punishment.
This isn’t without consequences, however, as one dad was taken to court because he took his daughter’s phone away. It didn’t work out against him, as expected, but still. Like in this case, taking away a teens phone doesn’t always end up with the results parents wanted.
”Taking away their phones for example will make their kid just want to do it again once they’re not in trouble anymore. Contrary to popular parental belief, phone confiscation has NO effect,” said Chloe, 17.
“The only thing that really gets me to listen is when my parents sit down and talk to me. I can always use someone else’s phone or computer to get a ride somewhere. It’s when they sit down and really explain the issue and its consequences that I learn,” said Rachel, 14.
Teens that truly want their phones will find ways of using the internet. A phone is as much a connection to their friends as it is a way to keep track of the Kardashians. According to childmind.org, removing a teen’s “lifeline to their friends” will result in “major emotional backlash, a breakdown of the parent-child relationship”.
Teens will “resort to sneaky behavior” to get the contact they need. It sets up a dishonest relationship between teens and their parents. Teenagers have also said that when parents take away their phones there is a fear of potential invasion of privacy.
Breaking relationships with teenagers is easy because of the emotional instability they have and parents should aspire to not do that by choosing their methods of punishment wisely. Taking away their phone when they spoke rudely, in no way teaches them that they should stop being rude. Instead it shows parents as the ‘big meanies’ that take any chance to take away their belongings. Talking to teenagers instead about what they did wrong has a higher chance of getting to them.
While the moments of ‘I hate you!’ are mostly unpreventable, if their parents make an attempt at talking to them instead of simply taking away their phones, it poses as a higher chance of them actually listening to their parents .
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